Porn addiction and incels

After I made a few posts on Twitter quite a few of my followers reached out to me either to discuss their realization that they are currently addicted or to share stories of their past experiences with porn addiction . It touches me that so many of you feel like you can confide in me and I’m happy that something as simple as a few tweets can be a positive influence in your lives. Some of you also reached out to me when I tweeted that I would like to offer discounts to incels, mostly with extreme concern for my safety which I also appreciate. My plan was to make a video about both of these subjects, but honestly I’m too shy to do that so I guess this blog with have to do. First, I’ll go into more detail about what I know about porn addiction and afterward what I know about incels.

The trouble with porn addiction is that it’s really hard to determine that you’re addicted. If you’re single or don’t have an active sex life it’s even harder to recognize and it doesn’t always have the same impact on everyone. I know I mentioned on Twitter how porn trains your brain. That is very true, I know because I have years of real life experience with it. What I’m about to say has happened to a large majority of my clients. I don’t want any of you to think this is me discussing anything that happened between us, I’m not talking about anyone specifically, I just want people to be aware of how common this problem is. After two years spent inside a brothel and nearly one year working indepently, I can honestly say that more than half of my clients have issues with porn and masturbation. Whenever a healthy client is struggling to maintain or is unable to get an erection, more than 90% of the time porn and excessive masturbation are to blame.  Many people don’t realize how deeply your sexual capabilities are tied to your brain, but there is a very serious connection. When you become addicted to porn you’re teaching your brain to take more pleasure in it than you would in a real life experience.  Your brain will not respond the same way it normally would to sexual activity outside of masturbation. No one does this intentionally, this is something that just happens naturally so it often goes unnoticed until it becomes a problem.

Porn addiction has other side effects, such as causing depression and anxiety ( or making these problems worse ). I’ve personally seen it cause men to feel inadequate to the point where they no longer pursue romantic or sexual relationships at all. Another more extreme side effect I’ve experienced is how porn changes a person’s expectations surrounding sex. I can personally tell the difference between a man who has a healthy sex life and a man who almost solely relies on porn. I’m sure other courtesans would agree that there is a very noticeable difference. We see these issues very often and at least with me, my client’s don’t realize their porn or masturbation habits are a problem until we’re in the middle of a session. Whenever I encounter this issue, I always advise my client to cut back on how much porn they’re watching and also how often they masturbate. Sometimes I’ll also suggest exercise because that often helps tremendously or reading erotica over watching videos. Typically, if clients follow my advice by the time they have their next encounter with me or another companion their issues are resolved or at the very least significantly improved. Please don’t take all of this to mean that I think you should abstain from masturbation and porn altogether. My intention in writing this is to make you more aware of potential issues that can develop over time and encourage you to do some research for yourself especially if you suspect you have a problem. You will find some studies that say porn addiction doesn’t exist and that’s okay, I want you to think for yourself.

Another issue I wanted to talk about is last week when I tweeted about wanting to offer discounts to incels. I received a ton of DMs and emails about that tweet, all from very concerned followers worried for my safety. A lot of you told me not to do it and some suggested I delete my tweet before someone took me up on the offer. While I always love hearing your guys thoughts and appreciate how often you think of my safety, I don’t think it was a dangerous offer at all.  Frankly, the majority of my clients have been incels or divorced men who don’t want to be bothered with new long-term relationships. I understand that the mainstream has lead you to believe that these are violent, misogynistic, and vile individuals. From my experience, that isn’t remotely true. Yes, I have heard about the shootings and yes, I have also heard about the online groups. The actions of a few bad people shouldn’t prevent me from extending some basic human kindness to others if that’s what I want to do.

My client’s who have labeled themselves as incels are very lonely, depressed, and sometimes angry. Some have never had relationship, experienced a first kiss, or even attempted to flirt with a girl. Usually they’re a bit younger around 20-38, but I have seen men in their early 60’s who were virgins or who hadn’t had physical contact with a woman for decades until they met me. Everyone knows ( or at least should know ) how important physical touch is to our emotional well being, to go years without it would be devastating. I am aware that the world doesn’t owe anyone happiness and that no one is entitled to sex, my intention was not to promote those ideas. I have just seen how hiring a courtesan can benefit people who are incredibly sad and lonely. A few of my clients have contacted me to thank me for changing their lives. Some of them are in relationships, some are dating, and some are exclusively seeing companions. They said that spending time with me made them feel less depressed and eased their anxiety about to talking to women. I wanted to extend that opportunity to people who wouldn’t normally be able to afford it because I believe that hiring a courtesan is much healthier than watching porn excessively. I don’t think it’s my personal responsibility to solve the world’s problems, I just wanted to do something nice. Most of my incel clients have been incredibly funny, down to earth, and I have honestly enjoyed their company. I’d also like to add that you can’t always take what you see online to be a representation of how a person really thinks or feels. A few of my clients have shared past thoughts and online posts with me, some have even told me they used to have a very strong hatred of women. That hatred was more of an expression of their disappointment with themselves or their anger about the lack of love in their lives. The media doesn’t really understand what they’re looking at when they dig into these communities, they typically want to make things appear to be as scandalous as possible for clicks or ratings. I can tell you from first hand experience with these people, that what is being spread is not a fair representation. A few negative stories about sex workers taint our reputations, but those stories don’t represent us all.

I’m not really sure how to end this. I just want to say that hopefully reading this will help you if you’re struggling with either of these issues. These aren’t rare issues and they’re nothing to be ashamed of. I wish I could have gone into more detail, but my head is a little foggy from allergies unfortunately.